There is always a ‘right time’ and ‘right place’ for everything, lest you end up doing a Mexican hat dance in some odd relative’s funeral. Similarly, one can say that there is a ‘right time’ to approach counseling and therapies as well, irrespective of the nature of the latter. More often than not, many individuals have been witnessed to display considerable confusion when it came upon them to decide whether or not they should seek professional help to tame their temper.
This temper may have been flying way out of hand for a while and may also seem to be more in control of the person than the other way round. Even then, perplexity still exists in deciding when to embark upon the right course of action or let matter take its own course. Left to the latter, the consequences can be guaranteed devastating.
From inviting risks to one’s own mental and physical health to guaranteeing damage to one’s own property or that of the other; from getting engaged with criminal offences like domestic violence, homicide etc to ascertaining alienation from personal and social circles … there is not much of damage left to accomplish after temper is granted a free reigns.
So, when the matter is about deciding when to approach anger management therapy, it is best to go by the wisdom of our immediate ancestors and all that they had suggested through their infallible experience. A few situations can be mentioned which when experienced by the concerned individuals plagued with rage or, identified by their family, close relatives and / or friends.
When Violent Episodes of Temper Tantrums Close in – One or two odd episodes of losing one’s cool in a rather aggressive manner can be excused and dismissed as rare cases. On the other hand, when these episodes seem to close in, and such displays become an everyday matter, it may be time to see the experts. When the matter has not flown irrecoverably out of hand, the concerned individuals can take their own decision to make the first move in this direction.
When Family Members get victimized – Domestic violence is an unpardonable crime in the eyes of law. However, not many victims proceed to seek sanctuary with the law when faced with such situations. The incidents are usually suppressed as one-time honest mistakes that are sure to get better by the day as and when the concerned domestic, social or financial situation of the household improves. But this seldom happens. Thus, when family members are seen bearing the brunt of irrational and criminally violent anger of a certain family member, anger management therapy must be suggested rather insisted upon by close well wishers.
When Court so Orders – Public display of rage or, dumping frustrations on the law protectors themselves, takes a disturbed person to court, where he / she is made to attend such sessions by law. This is however, the last thing that people suffering obsessive compulsive rage would like to end up with. Failing to comply can earn the trouble maker a short sentence in prison; an experience that can cure the same with the worst possible solution.